Welcome back to the fourth and final chapter of the 12 Power Principles To
Enrich Your Relationship series. By now you should have had plenty of time to study and put into practice the previous nine principles. By now you should have seen the results and reaped the benefits of putting these principles into action in your everyday relationships. Remember,  these relationship tips are applicable to any type of relationship, whether it’s Professional, Dating, Love, or Marriage. When put into proper action, these principles can and will turn any relationship into a growing, healthy and fulfilling relationship.  Once planted, these principles only need one ingredient, TIME.  So give them some time and watch them produce a harvest on your behalf.

Here are the final three power principles that will enrich your relationship. When added to the previous nine, these principles will enable you to build strong relationships that will survive the test of time.

10.) The Power of Asking

Think about how you feel when someone sincerely asks you for help. You feel flattered, honored, good about yourself, acknowledged, etc.  Sometimes we forget that people do want to contribute but you must reach out to them in the proper manner.  The first step in developing the power of asking is to shift your attitude about asking for help. You must ask in a way that gives people the permission and incentive to get involved. By permission, I mean you must ask in a none defensive way that lets the other person now its safe to get involved.  By incentive, you must ask in a way the makes the individual feel motivated to get involved. I like to use the phrase ” I really think you would be able to help me with this..” This makes the person eager to get involved just to prove I was right. This in turn makes them feel better about themselves and the confidence you have in them.

You must learn the six steps to being effective with your requests. 1) Be clear about what you want and why you are asking them, 2) Ask for what you want, 3) get to the point and be as concise and specific as possible, 4) Make your request with no demands or strings attached,  5) Ask in a way that makes people feel acknowledged and included,  6) Ask often so people can become comfortable with you asking.

11.) The Power of Thinking Big

One frequent problem in relationships is that people often underestimate the value and worth of other individuals. Remember, you never know, until you take the time to get to know someone, what they may have to offer. Don’t prejudge them. Each and every person is a wealth of information, ideas, experiences, and connections.  Always keep the attitude that there’s always more to a person than what meets the eye.  Keep a positive outlook on the future and think big about your potential and the potential of others. Even if they don’t recognize their potential, you recognize it and let them know you recognize it.  This has a drawing effect that will draw them to you. Continue to talk about their potential until they agree with you and soon they will recognize it too.  This will develop a strong bond in your relationships that will keep them coming back to you for affirmation.

12.) The Power of Commitment

The difference between a mediocre relationship that produces occasional satisfaction and gratitude and a strong, fulfilling relationship is the level of commitment each person has based on a deep awareness of the long-term value of the other person. People today tend to be oriented toward immediate gratification and rather than long-term satisfaction. Don’t let this kind of thinking trap you into short and un-fulfilling relationships.   Making a commitment to your relationship means making a commitment to your life, and to having a life of richness that only comes from full, nurturing, caring relationships with an emphasis of pursuing common goals and dreams.

Stephen Covey says, “Without involvement, there is no commitment.” Learn to stay involved in each others life.  Set goals and work together to achieve them. Make a promise and keep it. By making and keeping our promises, little by little our honor becomes greater than our moods.  Keeping a promise to someone is the key to developing the trust and respect that build a perfect relationship. The foundation of a perfect relationship is in the level of commitment of the partners, and their ability to show their care, trust, love, support, and interest in one another.  Making a commitment to your relationships  is the most powerful step toward a life of richness and fulfillment.

Hope it helps,

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