Dating Advice – Rules for Daters
I found this dating advice and thought it would be a good review for those of you who are actively dating. As with all rules, they are made to be broken, but keep in mind that coloring outside the box might not be bad unless you have more color outside the box then inside.
There is a certain element of challenge that people, especially men, like to feel when they meet someone new. Therefore, neither party should be readily available to the other at all times. It is good to show your new interest that you have a life. This dating advice applies to both males and females. It is a well-known fact that no matter how we try to hide it, we always want what we cannot have. This is not to say that you should over do it and make a relationship seemingly impossible, but you can and should try to make it a little work.
Initially, an easy place to start is this, do not always answer the phone! If you miss a call wait at least a couple of hours to return it, and please do not make the call several times a day. Give the impression that you do have a life of your own (hopefully you do) and do not always be available for dates. My dating advice with accepting dates is that if you are asked three days or more in advance then you can be available. Less than three days and you should already have plans.
We all know that men like to feel like the man, and women like to feel like women, but this does not mean that women should never take the lead. They should just not take it too soon. My dating advice is that after a while, if a woman wants to make some plans for an evening out that can be a good thing. We should not expect the man to put forth all the effort. It is okay to tell a man there is a new restaurant you would like to try, or a new movie out that you would like to see and offer it up as your treat. But be warned, if you offer it up as your treat he may or may not accept it and you should be willing to pay if necessary.
If there is a piece of dating advice that everyone has probably heard before, but certainly bears repeating, DO NOT get too physical on the first date and by all means DO NOT sleep with someone on the first date. This will usually result in the end of the potential relationship before it has even started. I recommend a minimum of three dates before intimacy. If your mom served up dessert first would you eat your dinner? Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free? There are a ton of metaphors that can be applied to this but the bottom line is the same. When physical intimacy occurs too soon the challenge has been removed and for many men there is no reason to continue.
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