Commitment In Your Relationship
Commitment is the key ingredient to any healthy relationship. Here is some advice for those who are asking relationship advice about getting your partner to commit to a relationship or maintaining that commitment for the long term.
When our partners do something we don’t think is right or we just don’t like, our tendency is to focus on what they did “wrong.” We criticize. We point the finger and we are often quick to point out what we deem to be their faults. This approach ultimately leaves our partner feeling judged, hurt, and angry. Whether the relationship is new or a long term relationship, or even a marriage relationship, this behavior does not lead to a build a solid commitment in the relationship. Instead, a good relationship can be built by showing true compassion and empathy to your partner. This leads to a willingness of the behalf of the partner to enter into long term commitment.
Compassion in it’s true sense is similar to love but often will surpass it when it comes to wrong doing. Compassion removes the judgment and the condemnation we place on individual differences and preferences and attempts to see the situation with understanding and from the other person’s viewpoint. It means we approach the spectrum of human qualities (good and bad) with tolerance. We allow people to grow and change and not chop them down at the first sign of wrong doing. This shows support, encourages a sense of safety and trust, and opens honest communication. This environment is the fertile soil of long term commitment in any relationship. It is the missing link to many relationships that never really get off the ground or fissile out after a short time. Its the glue that holds families together and doorway to finding your true soul mate.
