4 Signs That Lead to an Ultimate Break Up
Going through a break up can be hard on a person, and can take it’s toll on a person’s emotions and their self-esteem. Many people who were in relationships claim that they never noticed that tell tale signs of an oncoming breakup. Usually the signs are right in front of them, and without recognizing what made a previous relationship fail, they are destined to repeat the process. Others fail to see the common issues that people use as reasons to break up. These four common signs should alert you that you are about to get dumped, and may allow you to make the proper changes in your relationship to prevent another break up.
1) Lost Passion
A prime reason for ending a relationship is that the passion within it has been lost. Relationships typically begin with love, romance and excitement fueled by passion. As a result, you find yourself making love notes, unexpected visits and all of those little things that someone does to see to it that their partner is “the happiest person in the world”. But over time this passion begins to fade, and we forget to express those feelings that we had before and we no longer do those little things to remind a loved one that they are someone who is deeply cared for. If this condition continues beware, you are on the verge of a break up. So remember, don’t let the passion die.
2) Too Much Negativity
The main reason that we are with an individual is that they make us happy, and provide support when there is a problem. Constant complaining about things that upset us such as a bad day at work or perhaps problems financially, can result in an uninterested partner. You may find your partner distancing them self from you and you might not realize why. The reason is that you are too negative. Instead of making them happy and providing support you are making them miserable and bringing them down. Understanding that we all have problems is essential, and exploiting them is not a viable way to handle it, usually there is enough trouble and negativity to be found in our spare time. Stay positive and always encouraging and you can avoid this pitfall.
3) Too Much of a Good Thing
Not having enough space between someone and their partner is bound to create a problem in one way or another. Allowing a partner enough space for themselves and enough time to be able to go spend time with friends is very important. By doing so it allows a very healthy balance in the relationship, and can allow partners to appreciate the time they have with a loved one. Don’t smother your partner. Give them some space to breathe. Don’t make them glad twice, i.e. glad to see you come and glad to see you go.
4) “Us” Time
In our lives, we tend to devote a great majority of our time to towards things like education and the workplace, so that we seem to be without the ability to plan anything. Attaining free time and quality time for a loved one is another important factor; it allows the time to just be alone and get to focus all attention to that one person. This will allow a more in-depth relationship with that person. Understanding that without quality time alone with that person, they will obviously feel neglected and will try to look to other people, or places, to find it. So turn of the cell phone, blackberry and all your other gadgets and spend that uninterrupted quality time with your partner before they begin to look other places to find it.
