Top 6 Reasons for Broken Relationships
It seems like the relationships we have with the ones we love are so fragile, it hardly takes anything to shatter them. Although the list of possible relationship problems could be a mile long, but if we really break them down the list is really not that long. Believe it or not most of the biggest relationship killers are both avoidable and fixable, and in the interest of time, I’m going to address what I call the “Big 6.”
1) Unfaithfulness
Unfaithfulness is a supreme destroyer of relationships…nothing really wounds a person so much as when his/her partner leaves home and he/she decides to go looking for love in other places. Cheating on your lover is probably the coldest, most hurtful thing you can do to a person and usually results in nearly-unfixable breakups…so the best way to deal with the problem is to never have it in the first place.
2) Neglect
Neglecting your partner’s feelings is another really hurtful thing that can cause a breakup. People have emotions, even the guys who like to act like they don’t so much…and it really hurts when they’re never considered by the person whom they love the most. Always listen to your partner, and be considerate of how he/she feels.
3) Uncontrolled Tempers
Everybody knows that no relationship goes on for very long without the occasional fight…but it’s important to not get too fired up in these conflicts. If your not careful you’ll end up saying things you really don’t mean that can do irrepairable damage to the other person. A bad temper and refusal to calm down and listen is the WRONG way to handle fights. Take things with as level a head, maintain control of yourself, and try to address real problems rather than petty squabbles and gripes. Make your fights productive, not destructive.
4) Controlling
In today’s world an overbearing partner can really add a lot of stress to a relationship and strain the “victim” to the limits. As much as your partner may love you, they may soon get fed up with your constant harassment or end up dreading talking or being with you. Without respect and trust, a relationship will fail…so let go of the reins a bit before the poor person starts running for his/her life!
5) Boredom
Lack of spontanaeity and fun can be as deadly to a relationship as any other problem, but in my opinion it’s the most tragic of all the reasons a couple could break up. No relationship should be allowed to dissolve due to boredom and lack of interest. Make time for each other and do things you both really enjoy. Keep the relationship alive by feeding it good times and warm feelings.
6) Irritation
Your partner may not leave you because you constantly pop your shoulder or fidget with anything you can get your hands on, but a slew of constant annoying habits can really raise the pressure point in a relationship to the point of explosion. Usually it takes a lot of irritation of this kind to cause real damage, but for crying out loud try to get a hold of yourself. Everyone has a few annoying habits, but if they really bother your partner try to break yourself of them.
There are a lot of things that can contribute to the “demise” of a relationship, and these are really just a few of them…but by thinking this way you should have a good shot at identifying any of the things that are really hurting your relationship…and if you’re in the middle of a breakup, then addressing problems like these could really help your chances of getting through it with your partner still by your side!
