Dating When You’re Depressed
Dealing with depression does not have to hold you back from dating. You can meet many wonderful people romantically as you deal with your depression. In fact, dating may be an activity that helps you to work through depression symptoms, though it can be difficult at times. Meeting new people, trying new activities and sharing great times can uplift and encourage you. Because of the lowered self-esteem that depression can often bring, many depressed people are hesitant to date. They worry that their negative moods will scare off potential dates. Sometimes depressed people have been dumped by someone who couldn’t understand or handle their depression. This does not have to be the case. Below are some tried-and-true tips for successful dates:
You may feel exhilarated on the first date, but as time goes on and you continue to date the person, things become routine. That initial rush of excitement is gone and for some people, they become addicted to that initial surge of excitement to feel good. To combat this, keep the relationship fresh by doing new things.
We have not touched upon the part in which you ask the person you are attracted to out on a date! That is by far the hardest part for anyone to do, especially if you are a person who is not too socially active. But don’t despair, it’s easier than you think.
Think about it this way, do you get fearful when you are calling up dear old gramma on the phone to check how she is doing? No! Probably because it is highly doubtful that she will reject you. When you are calling your potential date, imagine yourself speaking to your gramma. If your potential date, rejects you, well then you learn from that call and move on. But the most important part is to work up the courage to ask that person out on a date. Rehearse what you are going to say at first, and get it down so its flows out perfectly. That way if you do get rejected, you know that you tried your best. The best of us all get rejected at times.
WHAT TO TALK ABOUT: On first dates, the best rule is to keep the conversation positive and light. Try not to discuss mention words about depression if you can help it. There will be opportunities later if you continue dating this person. Later, as they get to know you, they’ll be able to understand more of what you are dealing with. On the first date, they are making a first impression and so are you. Use it as an opportunity to find out more about the other person and talk less about yourself. Share funny stories if you can. Most people appreciate a fun, happy attitude on the first date, and they are willing to go on more dates.
You have many wonderful dates ahead of you! Get out there, take courage and ask someone. The worst that can happen is that they say no, and then nothing has really changed – you’ve still where you started. So ask someone else, or a few people! Group dates are also a great idea for a way to meet people for fun activities, where there isn’t much pressure. Eventually, you’ll find someone who likes you and is attracted to you, and you’ll be able to learn and grow with them.
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