10 Ways to Know If You Are in the Right Relationship
Ever had those doubts about whether the relationship you are in is the right one? Ever with you could easily determine if this relationship is where you ought to focus your attention? Ever wonder if the relationship you are in has any potential for a lifelong relationship? Besides, who wants to be in a relationship that’s headed for a major car crash without any warning. Or who wants to be on a ship that’s headed for an iceberg. (Remember the titanic!!)
If any of these questions hit home with you, here a 10 easy ways to know if you are in the right relationship. Based on the answers to these ten questions, you need to decide to proceed with the relationship or walk away.
1) If the person you are with notices that you are getting clingy and focusing all your time and attention on them, and neglecting other important things, what do they do?:
a) Enjoy it, and encourage more of it,
b) Work to help you get your proper focus back and keep you in balance
If your answer is A then you need to walk away. You probably have a partner who is selfish, spoiled and self serving and will not put your well being before their gratification.
2) Have you found yourself improving since you’ve been in the relationship or going in the opposite direction and getting worse? If the answer is getting worse, it’s a clear sign that something has got to change and quickly before its too late. Better put the brakes on now.
3) Does your partner initiate wholesome, and socially/culturally valuable activities or do they wait you you to initiate? This may be a sign that you are dealing with a leach that will soon drain you of your life blood. Remember, the way that you function in the relationship now will set the precedent for years to come. If this pattern continues you will be on your way to burn out. These activities need to be shared and initiated by both parties.
4) Can the two of you identify areas that you could not have grown in without the other person in your life? If yes, then you probably have a relationship that will be a lasting one.
5) Ask you closest friends if they see and observable signs that you have benefited as a person as a result of this relationship. This is a good way of determining the impact of the relationship on you from and unbiased judge. If they paint a different picture than what you have painted, it’s time for some in-depth analysis of your relationship. Close friends won’t lie. Listen and respond.
6) Ask your partners close friends if they see any observable signs that they have benefited from the relationship. Once again, Close friends won’t lie. Listen and respond.
7) Has the relationship hindered or advanced your achievement of goals and you fulfilling your responsibilities? This is a basic acid test to determine if your relationship is long term or short term. Pay close attention to this question. Ignoring the answer may result in life long regrets later in life. Many people have been cheated out of their lifelong achievements and goals by engaging in wrong relationships. Don’t be one of them.
8) Do you feel free to share your lifelong ambitions and goals with your partner? Do they feel free to share theirs with you? For a relationship to last, you must be open and honest about what you really want. If you can’t be open and honest, then the relationship is doomed to failure.
9) Has your relationship been an example in public or a secret kept private. Have your families been a part of your relationship in any way? This is the fame or shame criteria. If your or your partner are ashamed to own up to your relationship with family and friends, it’s a good sign that your relationship will be short lived.
10) Does your partner care enough about you personally to back away if the relationship becomes a hindrance or a burden on you? The true test of a relationship is the willingness of the partners to walk away if it becomes detrimental to either party. Love, true love, tough love, cares enough to walk away.
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