Marriage Advice For A Great Marriage
Researchers have derived a magic relationship ratio that allows them to very accurately predict the probability of a relationship lasting based on the amount of Negative vs. Positive interaction. See the above video for details. Researchers all conclude that the primary reason for failed marriages is the lack of communication and more importantly the lack of positive communication. Couples seldom take the time to learn how to communicate and listen to one another effectively. Throughout the marriage there will be times when conversation will be required. These are the conversations that you both may not want to talk about. Here are a few marriage tips and strategies you can use when you have to talk.
1) Avoid Negative and non-productive Comments. Some things are better left unsaid if they will elicit negative feelings and emotions. If you respond to one another without really thinking first about how it might sound to your partner, start thinking before allowing the negativity to take over.
2) Recognize the difference between thoughts and emotional (not physical) feelings. Accept that feelings of your partner neither right nor wrong. It’s the behavior that results because of the feeling that makes the difference whether right or wrong. Rejecting a feeling is rejecting the person feeling it. Don’t say things like ‘Don’t worry, be happy’ or ‘You shouldn’t feel that way.’
3) Learn to agreeably disagree. The key to not allowing these disagreements create hostility in your marriage or to hurt your marriage. Know when to agree to disagree. Don’t fight to win. Fight for your marriage.
4) Accept the fact that you can’t change your partner. Besides that not your job anyway. You can only change yourself and your own reactions. Changing your own behavior may trigger your spouse to want to make changes.
5) Love covers a multitude of sins. Learn to walk in love and overlook the shortcomings of others. Look at your mate through the lens of love and you will see only the best qualities. Add a pinch of grace to every marriage decision and you will find your marriage getting better and better.
