Why A Man Won’t Commitment In A Relationship
What many women fail to understand is that there usually isn’t only one reason why a man will not commit in a relationship. Although the list is exhaustive, there are 3 main areas that usually describe why a man is hesitant to make a commitment. Here are the three areas that would be worth while to consider if you are in a situation and trying to understand the lack of commitment on his part. Hopefully these dating tips for women will provide you with some general ideas or possible reasons for his lack of commitment and also some possible solutions to the dilemma.
1. He’s already getting everything he wants.
You may have heard the old saying “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” This phrase applies to having sex with a man as most women conclude but it also usually applies to much more. Whether its doing his laundry, fixing his food, taking care of the housework, running his errands, or even giving him money he’s getting all the benefits of a married relationship. So from his perspective, why does he need to commit.
2. He’s afraid of commitment…..
Fear of the unknown will cause many men to stop in their tracks when it comes to commitment. It may be that he has been hurt emotionally in the past or from failed romantic relationships. Generally men don’t handle emotional pain well. Their primary defense against getting hurt again is to avoid any relationship they feel might end up the same way. The problem is that they tend to think the “right” woman is one that makes them feel wonderful “all the time.” This is a feat that even the little boy’s mother can’t fulfill. No woman can be “wonderful” all the time. However consistency in you attitude and dealings with him may help eliminate the “unknown” aspect of your relationship.
3. His timing is different than yours…
A woman’s time is measured by moments, a man’s time is measured by events. Therefore a man may take longer to make this decision than the woman thinks he should. However unlikely, it does happen. For men over the age of 30-years-old, it usually doesn’t take more than a few months for them to realize whether a woman would make an good wife. Although he may not propose to her that soon, he usually has an idea as to whether or not she is “the one.” If he is still undecided on how he feels about her after 6 months, more than likely its due to one of the first two reasons I mentioned.
If he is under 30-years-old, it might take him longer to decide. Men in their 20’s have additional issues such as finances that can be a big deal to men. Many men at this age are busy enjoying the freedoms of being single and are simple not yet ready to relinquish this season of their life. Understanding and accepting this is often all you can do while you wait for the season to change. Remember after every exciting summer there comes a fall and barren winter.
