How to Date a Friend with Benefits
People frequently get themselves into sticky situations where feelings run riot and people get caught up, in a world of emotion and sometimes potential hurt or heartbreak. I’m assuming if you’re reading this that you’re involved in a “friends with benefits” situation that you’d like to change. Perhaps you’re reading to find a way of turning that friend with benefits into more. It’s understandable; people need people, and intimacy is desired by even the most recluse…This article was written by David of Dating Nation – a home for expert dating advice from around the web. If you’re looking to turn that friend with benefits into a long lasting, loving relationship but they just aren’t buying it, read further into this article and discover how to date a friend with benefits.
Do You Want to Date Them in The First Place?
Do you actually want this person in the first place? In seriousness it’s best to look before you leap when your heart’s at stake (although just between you and I, sometimes not looking can be pretty fun!). You should ask yourself whether you really want THIS PERSON for more, or whether you’re just looking to feel more fulfilled emotionally. Is it this person you want, are they right for you, or are you simply craving feelings which they’re simply not supplying right now? Do you want the feelings, or the person along with them?
How to Get Them to Want More – Think About Their Feelings
Studies throughout history have shown that people are emotionally driven. In fact, some really clever people have actually put a figure on it – people make decisions on a emotional basis (around 90% is based on emotion), whilst only 10% of typical decision making is based on logic. The good thing about emotions though, is that they’re almost always subject to change. A person’s feelings and viewpoints today might be completely different tomorrow. If you’re in any way close to a person or even in slight rapport you have the ability to influence and change a person’s feelings and viewpoints.
In order to change a person’s feelings and viewpoints you first need to consider what they need to feel in order to see you as “the right one to settle with”. Notice I said consider what they need to FEEL. What would need to happen in order for them to want to settle down? Which emotions would they need to feel and experience in order to think that they’d want to be more than friends with benefits with you? If you don’t know, try asking them!
Some People Just Aren’t Worth The Hassle
Even if you’ve gone to all the trouble of asking them how they need to feel; even if you’ve gone to all the trouble of helping them experience the emotions they need to feel in order to take your relationship further, and even if they’re experiencing the needed emotions fully, there are some people who simply don’t want to settle down just yet. There are reasons and circumstances beyond control of emotion and feeling, and likewise there are stronger emotions that people may feel they need to follow before biting the bullet and settling down with someone awesome like yourself. Sometimes it’s just better to let go and fly.
Conclusion
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