The 6 Things You Need to Know in Order to Let Go of Your Ex
Here’s an End of the Year gift for all my readers. Here are some excerpts from one of the most read relationship articles of 2014. Enjoy and Happy New Year!!
Have you ever been in a relationship that is hard to let go of? Are you in relationship, but still longing for and fantasizing about that one that you just got out of? Do you find it hard to let go of your Ex and move on? The key to letting go of a relationship like this is first understanding why you continue to hold on.
#1. When your partner in that relationship was at his best, he met all of your needs. He was the perfect fit for you. If he could have been that way with you 100 percent of the time, rather than just sometimes, you would still be in the relationship. The times he was everything you needed are hard to let go of. You have been looking for that kind of love all of your life.
#2. You find it hard to let go of your Ex because you never succeeded in making your ex fulfill your needs completely and yet you believe you could and should have been able to. You feel that somehow not getting the love you wanted was your fault. If you were only good enough, smart enough, attractive enough, patient enough, your ex would have given you the love you wanted, all of the time. After all, she gave it to you sometimes.
#3. One of the things that keeps you hooked into that relationship is anger. Anger arises when someone has something you want but won’t give it to you, especially when giving it seems the natural or expected thing to do. You are justified in your anger, yet anger is a way to stay connected to someone, albeit not a positive way. If you keep wanting to call up your ex, or show and tell him how much of a mistake he made, you are holding on with anger.
#4. The person you loved truly had great qualities. With her you had an incredible connection. Maybe she loved you intensely. She may still love you. The only problem was that she could only treat you well part of the time. The rest of the time, she acted hurtful towards you.
#5. It is so much easier to let go of someone when it is clear she doesn’t care about you. It may be even easier to let go of someone who dies, because there is nothing that can be done. But to let go of someone who is well and alive and possibly still loves you is an incredible task. Yet let go you must if the partner you are clinging to does not meet your needs. If you are ever to be fulfilled in any relationship, you must let go completely of this past partner.
#6 and the most important reason you hold on: You don’t believe that you will meet another partner who will give you all the good you had in your ex-relationship. You believe that with the loss of this relationship you have lost the chance to get what you really wanted, and that now you will have to settle for less.
The ultimate dilemma is how to let go of your Ex, the living, breathing former partner who may love you, or whom you may love, and yet who is not good for you and is not available to you; how do you let go of the one who seems to have been the one.
So what are the steps you must take in order to fully let go and move on:
Click This link for the Answer–>> http://www.getrelationshipsright.com/letexgo/
Happy New Year!!
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