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So your the best man and you have the awesome responsibility to deliver the BestManSpeech. Here are six helpful tips for making a good and memorable speech that the groom and the bride would be proud of.

Tip #1: Validate your qualifications to be the best man.

The role of the best man is an important role in a wedding. In addition to the real task of keeping the groom together throughout the ceremony, the groom’s role is also to provide visible support for the new couple. Because of this great responsibility, the person chosen to be the best man is usually the groom’s best friend. This friend has probably grown up with the groom from a very young age and they may have gone to high school together and may have even had similar dating experiences which include all the wild nights and parties, they shared together. Or maybe the best man is someone the groom became very close to after his wild days were over. In preparing your BestManSpeech, remember to explain how you are qualified to speak on behalf of the groom and give examples of the closeness you share. Let the audience know you are a subject matter expert when it comes to the groom. Make sure you emphasize that you want the groom to be happy and will respect his decision as to not only who he chooses to marry but also when he chooses to marry.

Tip #2: Share your insight into the groom that others may not know.

Sometimes it is difficult for a best friend to share the details of his friendship with the groom with anyone else that may become involved with the groom. Many times a story may seem good to share but the story may lose its impact when explained to the audience. It may be an experience you can’t easily explain. You would have had to be there to really appreciate it. Avoid these kinds of stories but rather look for stories that show a side of the groom that no one else would even imagine, especially the bride to be. This will make your BestManSpeech a memorable one.

Tip #3: Keep it light and positive.

The best friend should give a speech to the new couple that reflects some of the good, positive experiences they shared in the past. He should refrain from any negative experiences that would put the groom in a bad light. He should also speak of new, future experiences to come and offer best wishes to the newly wedded couple. To really be effective, the BestManSpeech must be sincere, meaningful, and tactful so not to hurt anyone’s feeling. Words of true friendship should be expressed as only the very best friend can put them. The best man must also remember that weddings are not the place for stories from the good old days that are not proper wedding conversation or subjects of discussion. Topics of this nature are usually embarrassing to both the groom and the bride or may be offensive to the guests.

Tip #4: Offer good, simple advice that will help the couple.

The best friend usually knows the groom much better than anyone else in the bridal party and maybe even better than the groom’s own parents do. Therefore, it is common for the best man to offer some good advice to the new bride during the BestManSpeech. The new bride should take the words of wisdom to heart for the future of the marriage. The best man’s job is also to encourage the groom and affirm that he is doing the right thing for both he and his new wife. The BestManSpeech can also include things about the groom that make the bride feel safe being married to the groom and feel secure about their future in the marriage together.

Tip #5: Keep it lively, humor is always in order.

The wedding celebration is a happy occasion. The last thing you want to do is deliver a dead, boring BestManSpeech that puts a damper on the celebration. Therefore, the best man usually begins his speech at the wedding celebration by telling a good tasteful joke about weddings or marriages. He may mention some funny things the groom may have done in the past and then mention how level headed the groom is now. He can include some humorous factors about the groom that others may not know but always reassuring the new bride about her husband. Make sure it clear to the audience that he, as the groom’s best friend, hopes to become a close friend to the new bride and her family as well. Whatever you do, don’t try to be deep and give marriage counseling advice. That’s not the place for it. Keep it light.

Tip #6: Choose a style that fits you.

Nearly every speech given at any wedding by the best man generally sounds the same and says the same thing. So you, as the best man, need to find things to add that no one else could possibly think of and find entertaining ways to wish your closest and dearest friends the best of everything for their future together. Whether you choose to be lighthearted and funny as many best men are at weddings or chillingly serious, you need to make sure your best man’s speech fits you and your personality. If you do not have a humorous personality, don’t try to give a humorous speech. Give a speech that matches your personality. Make sure the message is that you want to see your best friend, the groom, happy in a lasting marriage. As an incentive, remember, if the new bride trusts you as the best man and her husband’s best friend and believes that you want the best for them in their marriage, chances are the two of you will still be able to hang out and have fun after the wedding.

Hope it helps.

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