Tips for Dating With Confidence
April 26, 2010
Self-esteem plays a major factor in the frequency of your dating experience. If you are looking to date successfully you need to increase your confidence level. Increasing your confidence and self-esteem takes effort. Some things are easy to change, while others will take time and lots of practice. Remember, “Nothing can be achieved without trying”. Unless you feel good about yourself, the only way you will attract someone is through an online dating service. Even then it’s likely that the person you attract will soon discover your true feeling about yourself. Follow these dating tips to give your confidence a boost.
- Are you Prepared? Establish whether you’re truly ready to meet someone new. If so, then proceed. If not, take your time.
- Know your weaknesses. – Make two lists. The first is a list of all the things you are not comfortable with about yourself. Be brutally honest. The second is a list of things you think people may not like about you. Get a second opinion, too. Include the way you look and the way you dress. Things you can readily change.
- Take short term action. Change the things you think you can do better. By changing the most basic aspects of your looks, lifestyle and regime, you will instantly feel more confident. You will have a new you.
- Reflect – Take a good look at the new you. Ensure you are comfortable with any changes you make.
- Take long term action. Make sure you are in shape or attempting to be. If you are dieting or exercising, remember to be patient as these changes will take a little while. Start to change the habits and routines that drag you down. Your confidence will grow as you feel better about yourself and others will sense it.
- Change your associations. If you associate with negative people or people who criticize you, lose them fast. Start doing the things you wish you had always had the courage to do, like a hobby, sport or society. Then find people who enjoy the same things. Surround yourself with like minded people as often as possible.
- Change your attitudes. Learn to enjoy the smaller things in life and give yourself time specifically for these things. If you like to cook for friends, then start having dinner parties. Don’t wait for others to invite you out. Stop accepting second best. Start making yourself the first priority. Learn to like and love yourself for who you are and what you want from your life. Do not allow negative family comments to influence you in any way.
- Broaden your perspectives. – By looking and feeling good about yourself and widening your horizons, your life will begin to change for the better and your confidence levels will go up. Be selective about what kind of person you really like. And by the same token, talk to everyone. The more people who are interested, the higher your confidence levels. Make conversation with the nice people you meet along the way. Become sociable and look good at every opportunity. Be your own best advert.
- Start dating. If someone asks you out, accept. Set yourself some life goals as well as romantic goals. Other people love to be associated with driven and goal-orientated people. Confidence breeds confidence. Be proactive and ask someone out. Just do it, and accept freely that some people will say no. Many will also say yes. Remember that your confidence levels will become sky high by people saying yes to you. This will happen when you select the right kind of dates, so keep a realistic approach to dating. Walk away from anything you don’t like and instill a positive mental attitude in everything you do.
- Keep it going. Stick with it and just keep going. Don’t go back to what there was before. That’s over.
