Sex In Your Relationships
Although sex may seem to be a natural addition to a healthy relationship between two people who are in love, beware, for it can also become a powerful and dangerous source of imitation love. In the absence of true love, we desperately want to be valued for something, and many times we settle for sexual attractiveness and being wanted sexually as an acceptable substitute. We easily confuse the attention and the flattery of someone wanting sex as an indication that the person loves you. However we fail to realize that when the thrill is gone, we will be soon abandoned to find entertainment and sexual gratification somewhere else.
It is easy to become confused in your pursuit of true love. If you experience the pleasures of sex with someone early in a relationship, before you get to know the person, you soon lose your sense of what’s true and what’s not. You cannot easily distinguish whether you genuinely care about your partner’s happiness (i.e. true love) or you simply enjoy the way he or she pleases you sexually (i.e. imitation love). The danger of premature sex is that it is so enjoyable that when you get enough of it, you think you are truly happy and you quickly discontinue your search for true happiness and love.
When two people care about each other’s happiness in a committed, exclusive relationship – marriage – physical intimacy becomes a natural expression of love and great fun. However, when two people are involved sexually outside of a marriage relationship, it is often difficult to determine if the relationship is built on mutual care and love for each other or just on the benefits of sexual pleasure. One easy test of the reality of your love for each other is simple, stop having sex with your partner and tell the truth about yourself and your concern for your partners happiness. Then determine if your relationship is stable or if you need to move on in search of true love.
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